Wednesday, May 13, 2015

Tips for an Effective IEP meeting



*Please keep in mind that the advice and information in this article applies to the specific rules and guidelines for the state of Florida.  You can find out more about Florida law at www.wrightslaw.com.  Rules do vary from state to state and in different countries.

Tomorrow is Ben’s yearly IEP review meeting.  Ben received his autism diagnosis almost two years ago, and not long after, his initial IEP was written prior to him entering prekindergarten.  That IEP was revised at the end of PreK at his kindergarten transition meeting.  Now, as his kindergarten year draws to a close, we are getting ready to review the IEP yet again.

I am no stranger to IEPs.  As an educator I have sat in on many IEP meetings throughout the years.  I was responsible for implementing IEP goals as a classroom teacher and I was a member of a team that helped develop those goals for my students’ IEPs.  In recent years, I’m called upon to sit in on IEP meetings from time to time as a content specialist.

I have learned over these past few years that, despite my years of experience in the school system, it feels very different to be sitting on the parent side of the table.  

My journey into the world of parental advocacy has given me newfound empathy for parents navigating the process, especially those who do not have the resources or the background knowledge of how the system works.  We all want what is best for our child but round table meetings filled with school officials can be intimidating, especially when educational terminology and data begins to get thrown around. 

And, so, as I prepare for tomorrow’s meeting, I decided to take a moment to share five tips to setting the foundation for a successful IEP meeting.  I have been fortunate to have positive, collaborative relationships with all of the educators who have worked with Ben, but I believe that this is more than luck. 

Sometimes I hear parents describing how they prepare for their kid's IEP meeting, but it sounds more like a solider preparing to go into battle.  Personally, I believe this is the wrong approach to take.

Instead, I offer you five tips for setting the groundwork for a successful IEP meeting.

1)   Do your homework first

Make sure you come to the IEP meeting prepared.  This starts with understanding how the IEP works. 

An IEP stands for an Individual Education Plan.  It is a legal document that is developed with a team of people (see #3) that defines the goals and accommodations that your child will receive in the coming year.  It is completely individualized (hence the name) and tailored to your child’s specific needs.  It also describes the setting in which your child will be instructed for the majority of the day and any additional services your child may receive.  To learn more about IEPs and how they work, click here.  

Prior to Ben’s meeting, I reviewed his previous IEP and collected data of my own, noting his progress from my perspective.  I wrote goals that I believed would be appropriate for him (You can research goals on the Internet) and provided each member of the team with a list of my recommendations a few weeks prior to the meeting.

Make sure you know your rights.  You are allowed to bring someone with you to the meeting.  This could be a person with additional knowledge of your child, such as a private OT or SLP, or a person with knowledge of the IEP process, such as an educational advocate.  Or, you could simply bring someone as moral support for you, or a person who can take notes for you so that you can focus on the conversations that are happening at the meeting.  I highly encourage you to bring someone with you to the meeting, because you will feel at ease with more familiar faces at the table.

2)   Start positive

Even if you are unhappy with how the school is handling your child’s services, it is never wise to start the meeting with a negative or hostile tone.  Coming to a meeting with “guns blazing” forces people to take sides, draw lines, and put up walls.  There may come a point when you reach an impasse and cannot agree with what the other members of the team propose, and your procedural safeguards (which are your rights as a parent) highlight what to do to pursue due process and mediation, but it is never wise to start down that road prematurely.  You’ll get a lot farther towards getting help for your child if everyone feels that they are working on the situation together rather than having their hand forced.

It’s nice to bring something to share at the table.  A box of donuts or a bag of chocolates is a nice gesture of goodwill.

Start with an appreciation to the school or your child’s teacher.  Share an anecdote of something that your child did recently that highlighted his progress or surprised you in a good way.  Celebrate a milestone, however small. 

And, as the discussions happen during the meeting, remember to view your child through the lens of his or her strengths and with a growth mindset.  Help guide the conversation around how to build on these strengths rather than focusing on weaknesses.  Weaknesses certainly need to be addressed, but never let the team lose sight that at the center of these conversations is your child.  And no one knows your child better than you.

3)   Remember that we are a team…

It is important to not lose sight of the fact that all decisions that are made at an IEP meeting are team decisions.  And, as a member of the IEP team, your input matters.  Here are a few important things to keep in mind in regards to team dynamics.  First, no decisions about your child should ever be made without your knowledge or consent.  The school is required to send you prior written notice before a meeting occurs.  Meetings happen annually to review your child’s IEP (as in the meeting I’m having tomorrow).  As a team member, you also have the right to request a meeting at any time for any reason.  In addition, if the team plans to change your child’s placement (for example- from a regular education classroom to a self-contained environment of all children with disabilities) you would be invited to attend the meetings and take part in the decision process.  Deciding on a child’s placement prior to a meeting such as this is known as predetermination and is illegal. 

Keep in mind, however, that not every member of the team has to agree.  Certain forms that you sign at these meetings have a place to sign to show whether you agree or disagree with the terms set forth in the IEP.  However, because decisions are team decisions, majority rules, though you do ultimately have the right do withdraw your consent if you are truly unhappy with the team decision.  Just know that there are consequences to this choice and make sure you have fully researched the law before doing so.

The other important factor to remember here is the essence of what the word team means.  Webster’s definition of a team is “a group that comes together to achieve a common goal.”  In this case, the common goal is making decisions that are in the best interest of your child.  While some may disagree on the path to get there, this should always be at the forefront of any decisions that are made.  It’s important to strike a balance between listening to what the other members of the team have to say and being an active contributor to the discussion.

Here are some key players who will most likely take part in your IEP meeting.

*Your child’s classroom teacher-
This person should always be in attendance at any meeting regarding your child because they provide the much-needed classroom perspective.  They work with your child in the classroom every day and know his or her academic needs well.  However, they may not know as much about special education rules and policies or specific rules and regulations as others at the table.

*Your child’s SLP (speech/language pathologist)-
If your child is diagnosed with autism, most likely speech and/or language are an issue for him.  Pragmatics (or social) language are usually a weak area for those on the spectrum.  The SLP will have a good working knowledge of the goals that your child is working towards in the small group, therapeutic environment.  Sometimes SLPs push into the classroom and work directly with the child in that setting.  The SLP can provide valuable input about how your child’s behavior looks in a small group (which may be quite different from the classroom perspective) and provide specific support with writing goals and accommodations for the IEP, including social goals.  They may not have as much in-depth working knowledge of the general education curriculum, but they will provide lots of advice for how to accommodate and support the child within the classroom and throughout the day.  They can work with the classroom teacher to develop interventions, such as picture schedules and facilitate social skills opportunities.

*Your child’s OT (occupational therapist)-
Another vital member of the team is the OT.  Children on the spectrum usually have a variety of sensory needs that can and should be addressed through occupational therapy.  A good OT will work with the child through the therapy setting, but will also work side by side with the classroom teacher to design a sensory diet, which are a set of supports to help a child succeed throughout the school day.  30 minutes of OT twice a week in a pullout sensory gym is not nearly enough sensory support for most of our kids.  It’s important to put interventions in place, such as picture schedules, weighted vests, fidget toys, cool down areas, and whatever else your child may need.  The OT can help orchestrate these things.  OTs also work to help develop fine motor goals, which usually impact a child’s writing most in school. 

*The ESE (exceptional student education) resource teacher-
This person may have different titles in different states and countries, but their role is to support the child’s academic goals as written on the IEP.  If your child is in a regular classroom setting, this person usually works with the child during certain times of the day, and either pulls them into a separate classroom or works directly with the child in the classroom for additional support.  This person is usually the case manager for the child’s IEP, so they are your “go-to” person when you have questions or changes that need to be made (or if you want to call a meeting).  If a child is in a full-time classroom with only other children with disabilities (such as an autism unit), this person may be the child’s primary teacher.  This person has a strong working knowledge of how an IEP works, your child’s goals, and special education law.  They plan with the classroom teacher to make accommodations for your child, such pulling your child into a small group to give him extra time on a test. 

*The school psychologist- 
This person is usually shared between several schools.  Her role is to complete evaluations on your child.  Your child will be evaluated prior to the initial IEP being written, and then evaluated every three years (unless you or another team member feel the need for evaluations to happen sooner).  This person can also be called upon to do behavioral or academic observations in the classroom and explain reports or assessments as needed. 

* The school social worker- 
This is another roving position often shared amongst schools.  This person will do a social work assessment (which is a long question and answer session with the parent) prior the child’s IEP being written in many cases.  This person may do home visits at times and provide suggestions and support for parents on how to support the child at home.  They are often the bridge between the home and the school.

The social worker can also do behavioral observations and provide valuable insights into social and emotional goals.   This person sometimes leads small social skills groups at the school as well.  They have a strong working knowledge in the area of behavior.  Schools sometimes have another team member called the behavior specialist who also specializes in behavior.

*The ESE specialist- 
There are times when the ESE specialist may be invited to attend your child’s meeting.  These roles look different in different places, but in our county this is a district person assigned to a certain set of schools and they oversee decisions that are made at a school and district level.  If you are requesting a major change to the IEP that may be a bit unorthodox or will potentially cost the district money (such as a request for a one on one aide), the ESE specialist will most likely be invited to attend the meeting.  You could request that this person attend your child’s meeting if you feel you need the perspective of a district person but their busy schedules may not always allow them to attend.

*The school administration- 
The principal and assistant principal usually do not attend IEP meetings, but they can also certainly be invited to attend.  If you are requesting accommodations or services that will ultimately cause changes at the school level, then you may want to request that the principal attend the meeting.  The principal provides a school-wide perspective and has knowledge of the school budget and how the master schedules are designed. 

*Other Team Members- Other members who may be present at the IEP team include (but are not limited to) instructional coaches at the school (which is the role that I play at my school) who offer curriculum expertise, ESOL teachers (for students who speak a language other than English.  These teachers can offer translation to parents), the school guidance counselor, and the list goes on an on.

As you can see, the table can quickly fill with lots of people!  The good news is that each person brings his or her own unique perspective and area of expertise.  The key is to get to know each “player” on the team on an individual level if possible.  Reach out to them prior to the meeting.  Find out their area of strengths and seek their support when necessary.  Don’t be afraid to ask for what you need, whether it is a behavioral observation on your child or an explanation of a psychological report. 

If you feel that the meeting is moving too fast and you are getting confused, ask for clarification or for something to be repeated.  Most people are more than happy to help in any way they can.  We educators get used to speaking our own language of alphabet soup and sometimes need to be reminded that others don’t always understand what we mean.  Don’t’ be afraid to ask!

4)   …and be an active member of the team
Come prepared to the meeting.  As I mentioned previously, do your homework before coming.  Remember, others at the table may be able to speak to the curriculum and the technical parts of the IEP, but you know your child best.  No one else has the unique perspective that you bring, and that should be valued in all conversations. 

If you feel in your gut that a decision that is being proposed is wrong for your child, don’t be afraid to respectfully speak up and ask probing questions.  You also don’t have to feel pressured to sign anything at the meeting.  You can always take time to think about something and sign later.  Also, don’t be afraid to ask for data.  All IEP goals should be measurable, and the team should have charts and graphs to share with you.  If not, ask to see them.  Ask how your child performed on recent assessments.  Ask the team to quantify how your child is progressing towards the goals. And if your child is having difficulty with his or her behaviors in school, ask them to be specific about their concerns.  What exactly do these behaviors look like?  When and where do they occur?  With what frequency?  And what interventions are being put into place to address these behaviors?  The more questions you ask, the clearer picture everyone at the table will have about what is happening and what needs to happen.  Just make sure that your questions are worded in a respectful, not accusatory manner. 

5)   Learn the art of respectful advocacy
There will be times when you may feel that your child needs services and supports that he or she is not currently be receiving.  In these cases, it’s important to be ready to be an advocate for your child.  In my experience I have found that the educators who I’ve worked with have the child’s best interest at heart, but district and school policies will usually only allow them to advocate to a certain extent. 

As a parent, it is your job to advocate for your child. 

You cannot leave this to others to do alone, though certainly you can seek the support of members of the team in your pursuit of your child’s needs. 

When you are advocating for a service or support, first make sure that you understand the law.  Know what is within your child’s rights and what you can legally request.  Be prepared to speak, or even quote the law if necessary.  Be ready to bring an advocate to the meeting to speak to these things for you. 

At times you might even want to pay to have an independent evaluation of your child so that you have additional data as support.  I always bring my own data to the meetings so that I can share specifics to support the points that I want to make. 

Above all, seek to negotiate with the members of the team rather than bully them into giving your child what you believe that they deserve. If you find that your child is in a truly toxic environment, surrounded by people who just don’t “get it”, then you need to question whether this school is right for your child to begin with.   

I think it’s important to note that we also need to teach our children to become self-advocates.  When a child reaches high school age, they should begin to attend their own IEP meetings and be part of the process of setting the goals, but I plan to involve Ben long before this.   Ultimately we want to help our child to become independent, confident, and capable adults, and this includes teaching them to become their own advocate.

Some people say that I am lucky to have such a strong, supportive team surrounding my son, but I would argue that luck has nothing to do with it. 

These things are carefully built over time.

I did my research and looked long and hard before placing Ben at the school where he currently attends. 

I work to build relationships with the people at the school who care for my son every day.

I stay in communication with these team members and we discuss his progress regularly.

Luck has no part in building a strong team.


But a little chocolate never hurts.  J

Tuesday, May 12, 2015

The Boy Who Hated to Write #SensoryHop


This was one of my Mother's Day gifts from Ben.  It says, "I love you to the moon and back."
Last week was Teacher Appreciation Week.  I had the chance to visit Ben's school a couple of days and work with his classmates on a writing project for their teacher.  As I helped the boys and girls with their writing, it became painfully clear to me just how far Ben's writing skills lag behind the rest. 

I allowed myself a moment of panic before reminding myself that comparing Ben to his classmates is an exercise in futility.

Instead, I have to take a big picture view and look at his progress across the year.

As I think back to Ben's writing skills at the beginning of kindergarten, it's clear that his progress has been huge.

Did I mention that he started the year hating to write?

This progress has not been accidental.

Ben's classroom teacher, OT, and speech teacher coordinate closely as they work towards helping him to develop as a writer (and in all areas).  When we've met throughout the year, they have outlined specific steps in the plan.  I've worked on reinforcing these at home to help solidify what he is learning at school.

These are the steps that we have followed over the course of the year.

Step 1:  Master the grip
Ben has learned to hold a writing utensil correctly through a variety of different techniques.

The first thing that Ben's classroom teacher noticed at the beginning of the year was that Ben needed to master the pencil grip, and this became goal number one.  At the beginning of the year, Ben was holding his writing instruments in a fist.  He also switched back and forth between hands while writing, and I couldn’t tell if he was going to be right handed, left handed, or ambidexterous.  I learned that for young students with weak fine motor skills, it is common for them to switch hands and around the age of 5 ½ they should have selected a dominant hand.  The dominant hand should emerge naturally and by doing activities that involve crossing the midline, the brain will eventually show this preference.  If you'd like to learn more about why crossing the midline is so important, click here.

For the first few weeks of school, Ben’s teacher observed him closely and learned that he favored his right hand.  Once they established his dominant hand, they worked with him on the tripod grasp.  

They used special finger socks to teach his fingers to hold the pencil correctly and within a few weeks he had the grip mastered.  

Once his grip was solid, his frustration with writing decreased dramatically.  Prior to this, he would demand that any writing task happen “hand over hand” with an adult's help.  Once he mastered his grip, he began to do writing tasks on his own.

Step 2:  No more “scribble scrabble”
These pictures represent Ben's writing progression across the first few months of school.  The improvement was dramatic.
Ben’s teacher uses the writing workshop approach to teaching writing.  This teaches children that all writing has a purpose, so they write either to tell a story, to teach facts and information, or to give their opinion.  In addition, a child’s illustrations at this stage are just as critical to the writing as the words on the page.  Ben began learning that the marks on the page had a purpose.  At first he wasn’t able to tell an adult what his “scribble scrabble” meant, but the more an adult conferred one on one with him, asking about his story, coaching him on how to draw people, and eventually objects and animals, his drawings began to take form.  

Ben and his classmates know that they are writers, even in kindergarten.  It's pretty common for me to see a note from one of Ben's friends in his backpack on any given day.  They understand that words have power and that writing is our way of communicating our thoughts and emotions.  I've seen Ben harnessing the power of words more and more as the year has progressed.

Step 3:  Become a master storyteller

Writers must first become storytellers.  Because the physical act of writing is difficult for Ben, it became important to master the concept of story.  Ben and I practice telling stories about everything, including our day.  We tell stories about his favorite toys, creating wild tales that make him laugh. 

Many times, we tell stories with just words, but sometimes we write our stories down into books.  At first, I would write the words for him, and as the year has progressed, he has taken more and more of the responsibility on himself.  Ben’s stories have a special place in his home library and we pull them out often to read at bedtime.  Ben has also been taking theater classes, where he has learned to memorize lines and act stories out on stage.  This has helped his imagination to grow and expand, and often these make their way into stories that he spontaneously writes on his own.

Step 4:  Writing Muscles are Whole Body Muscles
Our kitchen table often becomes overrun by Ben's various art supplies.  Art is a messy, creative process!

We think of writing as a fine motor task, but any OT will tell you that developing writing muscles is a whole body task.  The effort to hold a pencil correctly requires muscles in the hands, wrists, arms, shoulders, and core muscles.  This is why activities such as monkey bars and jumping rope are so beneficial for developing writing muscles.  Other gross motor tasks that help develop the writing muscles are the wheelbarrow and bear crawl.  Ben used to hate doing these exercises in OT and would loudly complain when he was asked to do them.  Now he does them with ease.

Writing on vertical surfaces, such as an easel, also helps to improve fine motor skills.  Ben has also come to love art this year as he practices mixing colors in different mediums.  We have purchased him paints, oil pastels (for mixing colors), colored pencils, and variety of other artistic tools.  All of these and more have encourages his writing habit.  

Step 5:  Writing is more than copying words
Ben writing a letter to Santa at Christmas.  He has learned to write for many purposes and often will often choose to write on his own.
This year, Ben has learned to write for a purpose.  Too much rote copying of letters and words can actually be more harmful than good at this age.  Instead, Ben practices letter formations through tracing letters on sand and rice tables (aka- sand or rice on a cookie sheet).  We also practice by forming letters out of play-doh, wikki sticks, and putty.  Ben does have sight word homework every night (his least favorite homework) but rather than writing the words five times each like the rest of the class, Ben practices writing each word once each evening.  This accommodation in addition to the other fine motor practice mentioned above has helped him develop his confidence as a writer.  The most exciting part to me is to see Ben spontaneously choose to go to his writing table and write.  One day it was to make a sign for the dogs, telling them they were not allowed in the living room while he was eating.  Another day it was to craft a fictional story about Star Wars, where Ben Darth Vader became part of the light side again.  But my favorite was this past Sunday when I received the sweetest Mother’s Day cards throughout the day, completely unsolicited.

"I love you to the moon and back"
"I love you a lot."

"I love you forever."

It’s easy to compare our child to others and worry about how far he needs to come.


Instead, however, we need to remember that each child is on his or her own path.  

Our child's needs are not the same as the child sitting next to him in class.  

We need to consider what our child can do well and follow the child's lead in creating the next steps for instruction.  

We need to observe our child carefully to see if we are pushing too hard.  If so, we need to reflect and re-evaluate our course.  

We need to help create lifelong writers who enjoy writing and who write for a purpose.

This, above all, should be our goal.